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To the untrained eye, it is almost impossible to tell the difference. Typically they look like you and I. But they're not. They're not like us at all.
They are Vampires and their modus operandi is not to steal your blood but rather, your precious energy. Your life-force. Your mojo. To drain you emotionally and psychologically. To frustrate you with their repetitious, self-indulgent, attention-seeking diatribe.
They are often bitter, angry and resentful.... and they want you to share their pain. They don't want solutions, they want pity. They don't want constructive feedback, they want attention. They don't want to take responsibility, they want to blame and vent. They seem to revel in their own misery. Day in, day out. They have the same conversations about the same issues with the same people and produce the same result; no change.
They major on minors. They bring others down. They have a gift for finding the negative.
They are emotionally exhausting to be around.
They inhabit our work places, our families, our schools and they permeate every corner of society.
Note: I will point out that Energy Vampires are not to be confused with the vast majority of people who simply need help, support, direction and care... and are serious about working on themselves and their situation. They are also not to be confused with people who are genuinely looking for answers (not attention or sympathy) and are prepared to accept responsibility, be accountable and be proactive.
No, the people I'm talking about here are relentless in their negativity and their 'woe-is-me' ness (a Craigism).
As most of you know, I am serious about helping people create their best life and I choose to spend much of my life working with a wide range of people to help them confront and deal with their issues and create their own version of amazing... but I'm not about letting people monopolise (or waste) my time and energy and I won't buy into their crap attitude or their negativity. I don't care how messed up someone's life or situation is, if they have a good attitude, I'll help them. Gladly.
If they're a Vampire, I'm outa there.
See ya, wouldn't wanna be ya.
It's great to be a giver, a carer and a feeler (sometimes), but now and then we need to take a stand with certain people.. because if we don't, we begin to suffer and then nobody wins.
So here are my tried and proven tips for dealing with Energy Vampires. (Not every tip is appropriate for every person and situation but you might find some of them useful)
1. Identify the Vampires in your life, acknowledge the impact they have on you and make a resolution to change the way you communicate (interact with, exist with) those people.
2. Don't buy into their life's-not-fair-and-nobody-understands-me monologues. Feed it and you'll create a monster.
3. Be straight with them and tell them that you will not have the same conversations about the same issues any more (yes this takes courage).
4. This sounds harsh, but some Vampires need to be avoided.
5. Don't give them too much time. When a Vampire walks into my office I stand as if I'm about to go somewhere. I'll give them a few minutes and if I feel we're heading down the same old path, I'll start walking and shut the conversation down.
6. Ask them questions like "so you've identified the issues, tell me how you can change things for the better?"
7. If you have a Vampire who is in your life to stay (family perhaps), create some rules of engagement... "I will not talk about 'these' issues again until I see you doing XYZ."
8. Choose your friends and acquaintances wisely. Make sure you spend (lots of) time with people who will drag you up, not down. You need to keep your tank full. Spending lots of time with Vampires is draining and unenjoyable.
Footnote: Sometimes I struggle with some subject matter. I often wonder whether or not I should cover some topics, or let them slide. I have had this weird kind of internal, cerebral tug-of-war about writing this particular post... but lately I have been working with lots of people who are struggling with Energy Vampires in their world and it just seemed to be timely and for many people, relevant.
Even though I am a professional motivational speaker and a personal development writer, I don't feel compelled to write what people (necessarily) want to hear. I do feel compelled to be honest, helpful, practical and realistic and to write what (I believe) people need to hear. The truth is that creating positive change in our life is not only an amazing, enlightening, educational and rewarding growth process... but it also often a messy, impractical, difficult, lumpy, bumpy and (at times) painful journey. But it's all worth it.
I know that sometimes what I write is not the 'typical' personal development message and not necessarily embraced by everyone. I'm okay with that.
I'm not interested in making people feel warm and fuzzy (for ten minutes), I'm interested in cutting through the BS and dealing with real issues in a real and practical way so that you, the reader, might create your best life. If all my writing does for you is entertain you, push a few buttons every now and then, and periodically make you chuckle, then I'm failing at my job.
Reading my posts ain't enough. Thinking about it ain't enough. Talking about it ain't enough. And even planning... ain't enough.
It's always about doing.
I know my message is not always 'nice', comfortable or universally embraced, but it's the truth. So that's what you'll get.
Let us know your thoughts on Energy Vampires.. and also where you are from. If you've never left a message (scaredy cat), why don't you make your craigharper.com debut today!!
PS. Was that the world's longest footnote or what?
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"We had our annual
conference over the weekend of the 23rd and 24th Feb, 2008 and we had
Craig Harper as one of our presenters. He was wonderful, funny and
professional, and he got our message through to the staff in a positive
and fun way. He was loved by all!"
DVD
- Renovate Your Body - Craig Harper
In this entertaining presentation, Craig discusses the
notion of Renovating Your Body - once and for all. (Also
available on CD).
Fattitude
- Craig Harper
While many books focus on food,
Craig Harper teaches that creating life long change is more about the
dieter than the actual diet.
Food for thought
- Craig Harper
In this book, Craig Harper
walks the reader through his 21 rules to Permanent Weight Loss.
So you've decided you want to get in shape (again)
- Craig Harper
Imagine a pocket-sized fitness book that takes just twenty minutes to
read. Craig Harper addresses the REAL getting-in-shape issues.
DVD
- Renovate Your Body - Craig Harper
So you've decided you want to get in shape (again)
- Craig Harper
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