About This Site. This site is the website of motivational speaker Craig
Harper. A constantly updated, one-stop
information, inspiration, education and motivation
station. Unlike many similar sites, it is a totally
free resource for anyone who is serious about moving
from mediocre to amazing in any area of their
personal or professional life. With hundreds of
articles covering a wide range of subject matter,
great interviews with cool people and inspirational
video posts, there's more than enough brain-food to
keep you busy for hours. Okay, days!!
Enjoy.
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Life Coach
Melbourne - Craig Harper
If
you are interested in maximizing your potential,
stepping out of that 'holding pattern' and being
privately coached by Craig click here.
Business Coach Melbourne -
Craig Harper
If you're a personal trainer, gym owner or studio owner
who is interested in growing your business and/or your
career, then mentoring with Craig could be a valuable
part of your overall success strategy and professional
development journey.
Biological Age Testing
- Craig Harper
In a recent test, Jan Frazer, who has a chronological age (the
number of years she's been on the planet) of 67 did a biological
age test which showed she has the body of a 37 year old female.
Pretty Impressive! How old is your body! Find out here.
Nutrition Melbourne -
Craig Harper
Many nutritional
experts are confusing people with jargon and pseudo-science.
Craig's HPN Service provides remote access to Craig's Director
of Nutrition to cut through the dietary confusion and
contradiction.
Public Speaking Melbourne - Craig Harper If you've ever
thought about becoming a professional speaker or
improving your public speaking then you can be privately
coached here.
Fattitude
- Craig Harper
While many books focus on food,
Craig Harper teaches that creating life-long change is more about the
dieter, than the actual diet. This book is perfect for people who have a
history of 'almost' getting in shape.
DVD
or CD - Renovate Your Body - Craig Harper In this entertaining presentation, Craig discusses the
notion of Renovating Your Body - once and for all. Many of us have a curious
ability to be able to get in shape for events (weddings, parties, reunions
and birthdays), if only we'd get in shape for life.
Craig Harper is a leading
motivational speaker
and educator. He is a highly
sought-after corporate coach and is considered to be
a leader and pioneer in the areas of personal and
professional development. Working with hundreds of
teams, companies and a wide variety of organisations
on numerous continents over the last twenty years
has given Craig a unique insight into, and
understanding of, human performance and all its
variables. Craig has an ability to educate, inspire,
challenge and make people laugh all at the same
time!
Before we get under way with today's installment...
Workshops
Sometimes when I'm writing here at me-dot-com I forget to factor in that many people (thousands) don't actually come to the site to read my articles, they receive them as daily posts via email. So it's little wonder that people keep sending the Bald Man and I emails asking when I'm doing a workshop in their city when that information is already up on the site. So for the benefit of people who missed it or didn't know where to find the relevant info on the site, here are the dates and venues of my national tour....
Perth - Sunday, Sept. 14, State Library of WA Adelaide - Saturday, Sept. 20, Adelaide State Library Brisbane - Sunday, Oct. 19, The Brisbane Power House Sydney - Sunday, Oct. 26, State Library of NSW Melbourne - Sunday, Nov. 2, Harper's Personal Training
To find out more about the workshop (content etc.) and/or book your place, click here.
Training with the ex-fat kid...
As you may or may not know, at the moment we're running a fun little competition for someone to win a week of one-on-one training and mentoring with me; five one-hour sessions back to back at the Harperdome (my gym). Scary I know. So far we've had a great response with lots of people wanting to be putty in my hands. Weird. Entries close tomorrow, so you're still a chance if you think you'd be a good candidate. Find out more about how to enter the comp here.
On with today's post...We're not Worthy, We're not Worthy
And a big thanks to Wayne and Garth (From the movie Wayne's World) for today's title. If you have no idea what I'm talking about, see the movie or talk to someone who has. It's mindless crap but we all need a little silliness in our very serious lives from time to time.
The Big Baby
If you've known me for a while then you've heard me say before that over the years I have had a tendency to get in my own way. Especially when I was a pup. A Junior Burger. Just like you have. Just like we all have. For years my crappy self esteem and lack of confidence (hard to believe I know) were my biggest hurdles to success. I regularly let my emotional issues (self doubt, fear, insecurity, poor body image) get in the way of my potential and possibilities. Sure I looked like the big, strong, confident alpha-male warrior on the outside, but internally I often felt unworthy, unqualified, incapable, ignorant and undeserving. And being the alpha-male with biceps bigger than my head, I wasn't particularly open to exploring my emotional issues with others. Or even with myself. That would be weakness right? And we men don't do that. It's a man rule.
A Contradiction
What I knew and what I felt were often contradictory. Intellectually I realised that I could do (achieve, be, create, overcome) much more than I was, but emotionally I felt inept and inadequate. I often looked for the approval of others and when it didn't come, that simply confirmed what I had felt all along; that I was crap. It was a vicious cycle. Throw in a little self-pity with the self-doubt and you have a recipe for disaster. Fortunately for me (and everyone around me), I didn't feel sorry for myself too often, or for too long. I learned that my feelings didn't need to become my reality. I learned to take risks and to allow myself to be vulnerable. Sure I crashed and burned a few times, but over the journey the positives far outweighed the negatives.
The Fraud
In 1993 I began working for St.Kilda Football Club as a conditioning coach. On my first day at the club, I was required to stand in front of the entire playing group, the coaching staff and the medical team to explain how the pre-season training program that I had designed was going to work (practically) and my plans, intentions and philosophy for their (the players) overall conditioning regime. So there I was standing in front of forty professional athletes, outwardly looking like the confident strength and conditioning coach that I was meant to be, while inwardly feelingly like the ex-fat kid who didn't have any right to tell these amazing professional athletes how to do anything. Part of me felt like I didn't belong. Before I got up to speak, I felt physically ill. When the coach introduced me, I thought I was literally gonna throw up. Fortunately for everyone, I didn't. I gave my presentation and to my complete surprise, nobody picked me for the fraud that I clearly was. In fact they seemed kinda positive about what I had to say.
Just Feelings
Struggling with self-esteem issues is a completely normal part of the human experience. Show me the person who never doubts him or her self and I'll show you a liar or an idiot. In those early days, the breakthrough for me came when I learned to recognise the self doubt, the fear and the insecurity for what they were in my life; emotional responses to certain situations and circumstances. Not facts, not logic and not reality, just feelings. I discovered that if I was going to wait until I felt 'good enough' or 'worthy enough' to do something, then I would have spent my entire life in a permanent holding pattern. So I decided to be an emotional risk taker. I was prepared to make mistakes and look stupid. Prepared to get hurt. Prepared to leave my ego at the door. Prepared to get uncomfortable and even prepared to be humiliated if that's what it would take to really learn and grow. I did and I did.
And now?
Do I ever doubt myself these days? Do bears shit in the woods... of course I doubt myself. Do I get nervous when I do gigs? Sometimes. Do I keep pushing my boundaries? Yep. Do I ever crash and burn these days? Far less but... yep. Am I still learning? Every day. Does it get easier? Yep. Is it all worth it? And then some.
If only Garth and Wayne knew that they actually were worthy of meeting Alice Cooper, they could have ruled the world!!
In case nobody has told ever you, I will...
You are worthy.
Yep, YOU.
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DVD
- Renovate Your Body - Craig Harper
In this entertaining presentation, Craig discusses the
notion of Renovating Your Body - once and for all. (Also
available on CD).
Fattitude
- Craig Harper
While many books focus on food,
Craig Harper teaches that creating life long change is more about the
dieter than the actual diet.
Food for thought
- Craig Harper
In this book, Craig Harper
walks the reader through his 21 rules to Permanent Weight Loss.
So you've decided you want to get in shape (again)
- Craig Harper
Imagine a pocket-sized fitness book that takes just twenty minutes to
read. Craig Harper addresses the REAL getting-in-shape issues.
